When the Work Gets Real, So Do I.

Let’s get one thing straight: I don’t do polished and perfect. If you’re looking for someone who floats above it all, gently nodding while sipping from a mug that says Live, Laugh, Love—that’s not me. I’m the kind of practitioner who might drop an F-bomb mid-session (with love), admit to my own past messes, and laugh with you when the human stuff gets a little too real to handle without humor. Because I’ve been where my clients are. I’ve messed up in relationships. I’ve said the thing I knew I shouldn’t say but couldn’t stop myself from saying anyway. I’ve ghosted emotional responsibility and then tried to rationalize it. I’ve been reactive, avoidant, overly accommodating, controlling, you name it. I’ve done the work I ask my clients to do. I’m still doing it.

And that’s exactly why people work with me. Not because I’ve got it all figured out—but because I don’t pretend to.

Whenever I meet with a client, I’m not just guiding my clients through theory or tools. I’m modeling that it's okay to be human. That failure is inevitable and survivable. That your worst moments don’t disqualify you from growth, they are the work. The good stuff happens when you stop trying to perform and start getting honest. Sometimes that honesty sounds like, “Oh no, I’ve totally done that, too—and let me tell you, it didn’t go well.” Other times, it sounds like, “You’re not crazy, this is hard,” or, “Yeah, you kind of f&*ked that up. So now what?”

I work with people who are tired of the curated version of healing. They don’t want someone to whisper affirmations at them—they want someone to sit in the mud with them, crack a joke, tell the truth, and help them find their way out without judgment. One of the couples I work with joke that if I don’t say “f#*k” at least once, the session doesn’t feel complete. And honestly? Same. This isn’t performative irreverence. It’s just who I am. I swear, I laugh, I overshare a little, and I bring my whole self to the room. Because if I’m asking clients to do that, I damn well better do it, too. If you’re looking for relational work that’s human, honest, a little messy, and surprisingly transformative—welcome. Maybe this is a place where you find some of your people.